So if you just got a new crush, then you are like me (the me 10 months ago). It’s a great feeling to hang out with your crush, and when he/she finally says yes, it’s an unparalleled emotion.
I had asked my crush out just like 2 months after we met, and she was quite taken aback initially and she started to play the rather irritating, cliched friend zone trick but after a couple of months, thanks to my persistent nagging and chivalry 😉 she said yes.
Fast forwarding 5 months into the future, now the heat is gone. I’m still pretty much in love with her, I still wanna marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. But I’m having thoughts such as me probably falling out of love. My girlfriend doesn’t know that I run this blog, she’ll probably start a rant if she comes across this lol.
I did a lot of research and even asked a few people how they manage to stay in love after the initial “burning” phase.
Love is not a feeling, but a choice you that you make everyday.
This is what I found out:
And P.S: if you are still in the friend zone, keep going at it! Nothing comes off as more attractive than your determination and stubbornness to convince your crush that you’re the one.
Yes, this sounds pretty mundane, but trust me, this is one of the easiest, yet most overlooked technique.
Keep reminding yourself of why you fell in love with your SO in the first place. Keep reminding yourself that.
My girlfriend would do anything to help anyone in need, she would sacrifice so much, so there you go! That’s one of the many things about her that I keep reminding myself when things get tough.
Instead of thinking, “Oh man! She always argues with me!”, I think “this is just a phase, it’ll pass. I love her helping tendency and I wanna be with her always, ain’t gonna let some petty argument separate us”.
Here’s an ultra-easy way to create habits.
I just can’t seem to stress enough about the importance of this point. The ability to identify what unique situation your partner is in at a given point of time is an instrumental skill for staying in love.
There are days when my muffin would scream at me for actually no apparent reason. I could scream back at her, but I try to understand what is going on in her head.
I wrote an article about how empathy helps you say the right things.
This is why habits are so important in your life.
Try to get into their heads, people! You know your lover better than anyone, so try to find out what your better half is going through and comprehend why he/she is reacting in a certain way.
After doing so, you are in a position to even help them out and make their day better.
There are tons of other ways to stay in love, but I found these two to be super effective, and this is a start for you to appreciate your love, and to take nothing for granted.
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