Social encounters help us know more about the world. The more you talk to people, the more information you can acquire about the ever-changing world.
Be it any field, from sports to computer programming to even learning the guitar, the simple act of conversing with your peers adds more value to your craft than anything else.
There are tons of opportunities around us hidden in people. That career shift you’re looking for or that unique formula to crack your derivation. They are all around us, waiting to be picked up by you or instead by your social habits. Thus, your social habits play an instrumental role in accelerating your way to success.
We’ve compiled a list of straightforward and easy to implement social habits. (#5 is our favorite)
Have an Eye on Eye Contact
They say that your “eyes are the windows to your soul.” When you look into a person’s eyes, you are indirectly telling them, “Continue talking :). I’m really interested in what you have to say.
Moreover, maintaining eye contact also tells people that you’re a good listener. This way, you can build trust with your listeners. Moreover, good eye contact helps you win the trust of your listener. Consequently, they will want to talk to you more.
Learn to Empathize
Try to kind of predict how your listener might react to what you’re about to say because many factors affect your listener’s reaction to your comments.
Your listener could be getting over the loss of a loved one, and this definitely wouldn’t be a good time to talk about what your dad gifted you.
Engaging in a conversation without empathizing increases risks of social awkwardness, and that person might very well not want to talk to you again.
Click here to learn more about the art of empathy.
Complements are great icebreakers. Something simple like, “Hey, I love that sweater you’re wearing.” does the trick.
Complementing lightens up the possible tension between the two of you. As a result, this makes your listener feel at ease.
Look to it that your compliment is as genuine as possible. Even if you have to make something up, craft something that’s believable. Furthermore, empathy helps you come up with natural complements.
Work on your verbal skills
If you lack the confidence to talk to strangers, you must hone your verbal skills.
Ring up a friend, or have a monologue in front of the mirror. Work on inflections; they add more appeal to your talk.
Don’t ever memorize scripts or dialogues. Instead, learn to deal with situations.
The more confident you are, the better you can maneuver through conversation road-blocks.
- Don’t let interruptions interrupt their flow
“Hey, you were talking about how you got tickets to the Knicks game. You mentioned something about the overcooked turkey. I would love to hear the rest of the story.” This makes people super happy.
The air gets awkward and uncomfortable when your listener is interrupted.
Therefore, by not letting interruptions disrupt their conversational flow, you can make your listeners feel wanted and special.
How to Develop The habits mentioned above:
Repetition helps you get habituated. Keep repeating and learning along the way. Repetition leaves certain imprints on your subconscious mind. Consequently, you will find it extremely simple to execute the above social hacks.
I learned a way to develop habits with ease. Do try this method.
Those are five quirky habits you can work on to step up your social game.
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